I've (jokingly) come up with ten tips for potential ex-whores.
HOW TO GET OUT OF PORN WITHOUT THE HELP OF LUBBEN***
1. Quitting starts from the beginning. Always see the end before it comes. You don't want to be one of the whores who leaves with nothing but the hoe gear you rode in on. Save some money. Any money. Even if you only save half of each check, you will have PLENTY to live on. Hair/nails/drugs/pimp fee included.
2. Have some self-respect. Ironic, right? What I mean is, handouts are for losers. Don't be a victim of your own circumstances and turn to others to bail you out. If you don't have the drive or motivation to get out there and make money without using your holes, then stay in porn. Fuck it, escort.
3. Don't be dramatic about "retiring" from the business. Start going by your real name again. It will be weird, at least it was for me.
4. Make a plan, even if it's tentative. Short-term and long-term. Try not to make a "comeback" in a year or two. Or five.
5. Think of your talents and skills. The ones that don't involve sucking dick. Brainstorm and come up with ideas. What do you really want to do? Decide what field you want to go into next. Update your resume. Or create one.
6. Hit the pavement, ho. Turn in resumes, contact old friends, do what you have to do to get a job. Jobs are out there, no matter how bad the economy is. Do whatever you have to do, even if it's temping!
7. Just as with any other job, don't quit until you have something else lined up. I don't mean a date with a trick. If you're really trying to "get out" then you need to adjust yourself mentally because from now on you will be working a "real" job.
8. The pay is going to be different, so if you have any expensive habits... Quit. Enough said.
9. Get out of your current situation. Obviously it's not the best. Get rid of bad friends, pimps, and toxic people. Pack up your shit and move. Get a new phone if you have to. Apparently boost mobile has a blackberry now.
10. It won't be easy to move forward but you can't give up. Rome wasn't built in a day. For real.
***Just kidding, but not really. I think a lot of whores go to the help of people like SHELLY LUBBEN, and I think it's bullshit. I have nothing against her. I've never met her. But what the fuck is a $50 wal-mart card going to do for someone who is transitioning into a new life? I know every girl has different circumstances. Everyone has different reasons for quitting the business. I guess some might even be forced out. Don't agonize over the past. Build a fucking bridge and get over it.
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Bravo ...
I was one of those on fire for Jesus when I was "saved" at 18, and I lived that life until I was 23. Then I realized how close minded I was.
About pink cross, I had to go on that link you provided, and I am sorry but if I saw a porn star who I recognized trying to talk about Jesus I would end up in my head reliving the scenes I saw her in while she was preaching.
I'm happy you saved some of your cash, I know some former porn stars don't.
P.S. My last comment had nothing to do with the website I was just generalizing, my thoughts are scrambled right now but porn stars who got help, I am looking at the list, fine and dandy, but if they will say that being in porn was bad in the way of sex before marriage which is what evangelical pastors preach, bull. They look like they are enjoying it, I am watching lyla lei's videos right now, one of the former porn stars featured on pink cross.
I got a lot to say on this, will write more next time if it's ok by you.
Marley, you will be missed; I for one will certainly miss you and your antics and as I type this I'm also wiping away a sad, final tear from my eye... (yes, that eye, old habits die hard Miss Mason!)
I do hope that you will continue blogging occasionally to keep us Marley-fans up to date with your post-porn career, and I wish you the very best in whatever direction you decide to take!
Jim xxx
PAUL,
Feel free to comment more about the whores turning to Lubben. I think it's a bunch of bullshit too. Talk about exploitation.
JIM,
I always loved your comments. This whole transition has been a little surreal for me. A little sad, too. I will definitely keep you guys updated!
Nice! Will miss you over at xpt.
LOL, the dumb whore guide, you are actually very smart!
Congrats on your move and best wishes (really). Hope you find an interesting and fulfilling career.
I just started a online conversation thread with tamra toren, one of the ladies featured on the pink cross website, part of her response to my message was that it was all just a paycheck to her, and that she wrote "Secondly, I don't think sex is bad if it's between two consulting (I think she meant consenting) mature adults that are in a married relationship and not in front of a camera to make money." This is exactly the kind of message my church would preach on no sex out of wedlock. Gosh I feel sorry for her.
She also said she contracted herpes, which is a bummer. I hope to continue my conversation with her.
Ooh, thanks for the compliment Miss Marley, I love reading your blog too!
In response to onehandedguy's comment about Tamra Toren, I have to admit to never having heard of her so had to google her name, only to find some pictures and film clips of her in a rather excitable mood; in light of what onehand wrote, can I assume that when she made '10 Man Cum Slam #22' she was in love with each of the 10 guys who 'slammed' her? Or am I missing the point?
:o)
I'll be honest here,
There were definitely some times where I wasn't the happiest camper on set. And I didn't even do any anal on camera. So I can see how some girls just shut down mentally and "dealt with" everything just for the money. A lot of them probably did things on camera that they never would have done at home. I can empathize with and understand the ones who genuinely regret everything they've done in the past. But it's a completely different thing if they are just talking shit and taking handouts. Sex feels good, I don't think anyone can argue with that. But then there's this whole debate about whoredom and fucking for money. Right or wrong, it's subjective. IMO ; )
It just seems like (in a way) these girls are exploited by the one who is against all this exploitation in the first place! I have read some of these sob stories from the girls. They are sad. Sad and embarrassing. I understand that they are written to collect donations, but really? These girls are supposed to be moving forward and starting anew, not agonizing over every horrid detail. What kind of stuff do they get anyway? I saw a youtube video once where a girl got a houseplant and some cards or something, I was like...WTF? I think a decent "gift" to an potential ex-porn whore would be a deposit on an apartment and a job interview!
I think you have taken the right decision although I and many people in Russia are upset. You are so popular model in our country. We ask you: Miss Marley, please, don't leave us without your new pics. I don't mean porn photos. I'd like to have your pictures of all sorts, for example, your child or teen photos. I put it isn't too difficult for you but it's a great joy for manies. We' re waiting...
"We ask you: Miss Marley, please, don't leave us without your new pics. I don't mean porn photos. I'd like to have your pictures of all sorts, for example, your child or teen photos."
I realise that there maybe something lost in the translation and I'm sure it was written in innocence, but does anyone else find that request a bit worrying?
where this you my life? what you walk making my princess… that you le its email… are not waiting so anxious you… Marley 4ever...
where this you my life? what you walk making my princess… that you le its email… are not waiting so anxious you… Marley 4ever...
where this you my life? what you walk making my princess… that you le its email… are not waiting so anxious you… Marley 4ever...
Please my princess, does not delay in such a way thus to have access its email and its please blog… I have as much thing prara to speak to it… Marley to 4ever…
signed: Its Universe
Just wanna say Marley that you obviously have talent (I mean beyond the talent you used so well in porn!), and this post proves it. You are a wonderful writer, with a great voice. Wherever you end up in life, being able to write so well will be a great asset for you.
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